"Outside the dream world, life can be harsh, even cruel, but it is life."

So, I have not written in awhile. I'm not entirely sure why that is. But I will be better about that in the future. No real gems from me today/tonight, except for the fact that I realize that I cannot "fix" people nor help people who haven't asked for help.

This being said, you may wonder what inspired it. I really don't want to get into details, but the long and short of it is that one of my friends is getting married to someone she has known for only a few months (and he lives two hours away from her- though I think they talk on the phone most nights). Everyone else in her family supports it (I think it's a religion thing) so if I were to confront her, it would do nothing but make me feel better by getting it off my chest. Thus, I cannot fix how my friend feels about her upcoming nuptials (a few months from now) and confronting her wouldn't help anything.

Next is a female friend who was introduced to me by a mutual third friend. This female friend was (is? by all indications, this is true) interested in me. We go to different colleges but were able to talk online a good deal. She was nice enough to talk to online and for a time, I felt the same way as her. However, the more I talked to her, I became aware of how immature she was. I tried holding a reasonable debate with her and she just wasn't listening to me and it was the fact that she didn't listen to me (not the not agreeing with me- I'm fine with people not agreeing with me) nor try to firmly justify her own opinions that just made me realize the relationship was going nowhere. I can't fix that. It just got frustrating that as pleasant as she was to talk to initially, whenever our conversation got even remotely deep she loses her credibility. I can't be with someone who cannot deal with philosophical/ethical questions. So, I just need to recognize that the relationship isn't going anywhere and move on. While she talks to me online, I never will see her in person.

The only person I can really change is myself. So, to quote Maya Angelou: “If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude.” So, with the first friend, I need to change my attitude. But as for the second...I won't run into her physically and by editing my settings on AIM/Facebook, I won't have to deal ever. Win.

-Reven